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Menagerie Fisting Parties

 

Private location (The Menagerie) in Seattle • 8:00 pm–1:00 am (or when the last pig is done)

What is a Fisting Party?

This is a large group men's sex party centered around fisting.

Why are they called "Menagerie"?

A menagerie is a collection of beasts and exotic animals, many of which make loud and exotic noises. So do guys engaged in fisting and other extreme sex/BDSM activities.

Who is behind the Menagerie Fisting Parties?

Jim Drew is your primary host, along with others who help organize and run the parties. Jim can be found at online cruise sites as either menagerieFF (most sites) or mykindofrain (AssPig).

When is the next party? How often are the parties held?

Menagerie parties are held every 2-3 months; in 2017, we are experimenting with hosting them 6 times a year, roughly every 2 months. The date varies depending on the hosts' schedules, but are roughly earl March, earl May, early July, late August, early November, and New Year's Eve.

Who gets to attend? How do invites work?

  1. First, you get on the invite list
  2. Second, you look for an emailed invite for a given party, and you reply to the email
  3. Third, a few days before the party, you get a second email which has the address and other details for the specific party

How do I get on the invite list?

Send an e-mail to redhanky@soundskinky.com and include the following info:

Invites are sent by e-mail from that address (so whitelist it in your spam filter, if needed). We don't send invites via text, phone call, Facebook Messenger, Facebook events, AssPig clubs, Evite, or carrier pigeon.

Do I have to RSVP, or can I just show up?

Yes, you need to RSVP for every party you are attending. It would be rude to just show up without letting the host know ahead of time that you will be there. The location can only handle about 35 guys for a party, and we usually get more RSVPs than that limit.

(What happens if you show up without an RSVP in advance? You won't get invited to the next party!)

Do I need to RSVP if I am not coming?

I recommend it.

If you don't RSVP a few times in a row, you will be removed from the invite list -- after all, if you aren't replying at all, you likely aren't getting the invite emails at all. (Check your spam filter.) But don't worry if you fail to reply once or twice.

Can I see the list of who is coming?

No. The invite list is private.

However, if you want to know if sopmeone specific -- a buddy, and ex, etc. -- is on the invite list or has said they are coming, that I will share

Can I bring a friend?

Maybe. The location can only handle about 35 guys for a party, and we usually get more RSVPs than that limit, so if the party list is already full, we can't accommodate your buddy.

Regardless, be sure to ask, don't just show up with him in tow. And the same info is needed from him as anyone regular invitee -- his name, a face pic, a profile if he has one, Driver's licence pic if he is under 25, and emergency contact info.

Only one buddy per person or couple, please.

What if there is a wait list?

If RSVPs exceed the number of people the location can handle, we will start a wait list and notify you if you are on it. There are always a handful (hee hee) of cancellations, so we will notify guys by e-mail if we can bring them off the wait list. Cancels usually occur in the last couple days, so you could get notified up to mid-afternoon on the day of the party, which we know can be too short of notice.

What if my plans are unceratin? What if I need to cancel?

You want to attend, but you won't know for sure if you can until a couple days before the party? We recommend RSVP'ing and then cancel if you won't be able to attend after all. Yes, you may be forcing someone else onto the wait list, but if you don't, you'll be the one unable to attemd.

Cancelling is absolutely not a problem. Doesn't matter if you got sick, or you had to go out of town, or family showed up, or you got cold feet, or you just decided to not come. But the important thing is to let me know you won't be attending -- preferably by e-mail a few days out, so guys can be brought off the Wait List, but even a Facebook message or a text an hour before the party is fine.

Don't be a No Show. That's rude, and it can affect your future invites.

Can you do a special party on a date I will be in town?

Maybe. A couple of the party dates are pre-set and won't be moved. Others are somewhat flexible, based on the schedules of myself and my co-hosts. And sometimes we can throw in an extra party in between regular ones. But the earlier you can request, the more likely it can occur.

Where are the parties held?

At a private location in south Seattle. For privacy reasons, we don't release the address except to those who have RSVP'ed for a given party.

Why are the parties always on a Saturday night?

We know that everyone isn't available Saturday nights. Some guys have to work then, and others may want to go to the theatre, to the bar, etc.

For a good sex party, you want it to last several hours -- Menagerie parties run 8 pm to 1 am (or so, until the last pig is done). Since most attendees (and the host!) work weekdays, weekday and Sunday nights don't allow for that duration. Setup for the parties takes a few hours -- cleaning, shopping, moving equipment, hanging slings, etc. -- and that makes Friday nights difficult, as does rampipng down from the work week and up for kinky play. Clean up also takes a few hours. Which leaves Saturday afternoon, Saturday evening, and Sunday afternoon. Evening parties tend to be better attended.

Can you do a Menagerie party in another city?

We have done smaller parties in Vancouver and Portland. Since we have several portable slings, we can bring some of the equipment with us -- the challenge is that we need a suitable space to host a party for

How much does it cost to attend?

We don't charge a specific cover, but there are expenses attached to running these parties. (And let's be frank: it's a lot of work to prepare and clean up from a party, and we host these several times a year.)

If you want to donate some cash: We put out a "donation jar", which we call the Fist Kitty. Recommended amount is $10-20 per person.

If you want to contribute in other ways: Bring some play supplies (gloves, pads, lube, paper towels) to supplement what we provide. Bring some snacks or beverages. Arrange to arrive an hour early to help set up, or arrange to come back the next day to help with clean up.

How many guys attend?

Do you ever do smaller parties?

What kind of guys attend? Age range, body type, race?

Are trans guys welcome?

How expereinced do I need to be?

Can you put me in touch with someone who was at a party I attended?

What do you provide as food and beverage?

What do you provide for play supplies?

Can I smoke at the party? Can I smoke pot at the party?

What play spaces do you have?

Can I play on the deck?

Is this only fisting, or can other play occur?

Do I have to play, or can I jujst watch?

Do I have to wear gloves and rubbers?

Is there a dress code?

As a top, how should I prepare?

As a bottom, how should I prepare?

Anything else?

How do I get an invite?

Send an email to redhanky@soundskinky.com.  Include your name, stats, a facepic, and how much fisting you have done.

Even if you have been to parties here before, please don’t just show up without an invite and an RSVP.

 

What and where is La Ménagerie?

La Ménagerie (“The Menagerie”) is a private location in south Seattle.  Invitees will get the address and directions.  We are short walking distance from bus routes, 20 minutes from light rail.

The name comes from the various animal-like noises which tend to come out the place.  (grin)

What will happen at the party?

There is no workshop or specific other event scheduled for the party.  Most guys arrive, change into whatever gear they want for play (naked is fine, too), socialize a bit, and play when they want to.  If you need specific mentoring or the like, just ask and we will find you an appropriate person to help with things.

Doors open at 8:00 pm
Please arrive by 9:30 pm
Party goes to 1:00 am or so

How much does it cost?

The Fist Kitty will be out, and we encourage you to make a donation (maybe $10–20).  Donations help to cover the costs attached to doing the parties.

If you prefer, bring party supplies or snacks or beverages to share.

What is provided?

8 or 9 play spaces (slings, fuck bench, futon)
Fisting lube
Gloves and condoms
Snacks and beverages (feel free to bring some to share, if you like)
Towels in case you get all greasy (we hope so!) and need a quick shower

Do I have to play?

Anyone who comes should at least be hoping/planning to play, but it’s not like we are going to tie you down and force you to play.  (Some of you might like that!)  You might find that no one is at the party whom you want to play with.  But no one should come planning to not play.  If you don’t want to actually engage in fisting, don’t attend.  This is not a party for voyeurs.

Is it only fisting?

Fisting is the primary focus, but these parties have seen ample sucking and fucking, and a certain amount of CBT, flogging, bondage, and even needle play in the mix.

I haven’t really done much assplay before, and never full fisting.  Can I come?

Most of the guys have ample practice, but there are often guys who are still learning the fisting ropes.  There have been both top and bottom “fisting cherries” lost at these parties.

What is the dress code?  Do I have to get naked?

Wear whatever you are comfortable in, more or less.  Some guys willl go naked, some will keep a jock or boxers on, some may wear more than that.  Leather and gear (including boots) are always appropriate.  Don’t wear anything that you don’t want to risk getting lube on.  (Note that La Ménagerie is in a residential nieghborhood, so please arrive and depart dressed appropriately.  Leather and gear without your bits hanging out is fine.)

There will be a space and bags to stash your clothes.  It is largely unmonitored, so leave your valuables in your car/at home.

Can I bring a friend?

So long as he is also interested in fisting, just send me his name, age, pic, and so on.  (Note: we do have an attendance limit, so don’t just show up with a buddy in tow.  Make sure there is space.)

Can trans guys come?

Sure (they have before), so long as you’re interested in anal fisting.  You will probably want to disclose with any play partner, of course, but you know the best ways to handle that.

How should I prepare ahead of time?

For everyone, the usual good hygeiene, good hydration, etc.

If you are going to top, trim your nails.

If you are going to bottom, clean out ahead of time.  Bring a spare nozzle if you end up needing to touch up, but cleaning out needs to be done ahead of time.  (If you don’t know what to do for cleaning out, you probably aren’t ready for this party.  Email us with questions about this, though, and we can advise: redhanky@soundskinky.com.) 

What about safer sex?

Gloves and rubbers will be available.  We would prefer that you use them (if only to make clean up that much easier), but we will not have a DM on hand who will monitor and enforce usage.  We assume you are a consenting adult and will discuss safer sex needs and desires with those you play with at the party.

Anything else?

La Ménagerie has a resident cat.  Take your allergy meds if you need them.

Smoking outside only (on the deck).

No PnP or other illegal drug use — don’t bring it and don’t arrive on it.  Pot and poppers and alcohol are fine (in moderation; know your limits).